Parts of a Marriage

THIS IS MY LAST POST OF THE SEMESTER AND I WANT TO MAKE IT THE BEST YET. THIS WEEK I AM GOING TO TALK ABOUT DIVORCE, REMARRYING, AND AGING MARRIAGES. ALTHOUGH I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED ANY OF THESE THINGS FIRST HAND, I HAVE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO SEE HOW THESE DIFFERENT PARTS OF MARRIAGE EFFECT THE MARRIAGE ITSELF. I BELIEVE THAT ALL OF THESE WOULD BE TERRIBLY DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH AND LEARN HOW TO NAVIGATE THESE EXPERIENCES, BUT I HAVE SEEN MANY PEOPLE HANDLE THIS ROUGH TIME WITH SUCH GRACE. THESE ARE SOME OF THE THINGS I HOPE I NEVER HAVE TO EXPERIENCE EXCEPT FOR THE AGING MARRIAGE ASPECT WHICH CAN HAPPEN TO ANY COUPLE AND BE NAVIGATED THROUGH TOGETHER. DIVORCE IS A VERY SAD TOPIC, THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN COUPLES HAVE TRIED THEIR BEST TO GET PAST THEIR DIFFERENCES AS WELL AS WHEN OTHER FACTORS OF LIFE BRING TOO MUCH STRESS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP. SOME COUPLES ARE ABLE TO WORK THROUGH THESE THINGS AND GROW CLOSER BY OVERCOMING THESE DISAGREEMENTS, WHILE ON THE OTHER HAND SOME OF THESE TRIALS ARE FAR TOO HARD TO TAKE ON AND CONQUER. THIS CAN BRING MUCH UNHAPPINESS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND AT SOME POINT IT BECOMES TOO MUCH OF A BURDEN ON THESE INDIVIDUALS. IT IS WISE FOR COUPLES WHEN THEY ARE EXPERIENCING THESE THINGS TO SEEK COUNSEL FROM THE LORD AS WELL AS THEIR BISHOP OR A MARRIAGE AND FAMILY COUNSELOR. THE COUPLE SHOULD ALSO PRAY TOGETHER ABOUT THIS DECISION AND MAKE SURE IT IS THE RIGHT THING FOR THEM AND THEIR FAMILY AND CHILDREN’S HAPPINESS. REMARRYING CAN ALSO BE A VERY TOUCHY TOPIC. ONCE A MAN OR WOMAN IS DIVORCED FROM THEIR SPOUSE IT MAY TAKE A WHILE UNTIL THEY WANT YO GET BACK INTO THE DATING WORLD. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO RUSH AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO TAKE TIME TO HEAL AND FOCUS ON THEMSELVES BEFORE JUMPING INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. THESE INDIVIDUALS SHOULD ALSO CONSIDER HOW SOMETHING LIKE THIS WOULD EFFECT THE REST OF THEIR FAMILY AND LOVED ONES. ULTIMATELY IF THIS PERSON FEELS THAT ITS THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR THEM, THEN THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH THEM REMARRYING SOMEONE ELSE THEY NOW LOVE AND ARE HAPPY WITH. IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO CONSIDER THOSE AROUND YOU’S FEELINGS AS WELL AS YOUR OWN! REMARRYING IS A VERY BIG DECISION AND SHOULD BE THOUGHT ABOUT FOR A WHILE AND PRAYED ABOUT, ALTHOUGH IT MAY SEEM TOO QUICK OR SLOW TO OTHERS, BUT IN REALITY IT IS IN THE LORD’S TIME AS WELL AS THE PEOPLE WHO ARE GETTING MARRIED. IT IS NOT OUR PLACE TO JUDGE OTHERS ON THESE DECISIONS AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO KEEP OUR OPINIONS ABOUT THESE THINGS TO OURSELVES. HAVING THE OPPORTUNITY TO FIND LOVE AGAIN AND TO BE MARRIED AGAIN IS SUCH A BLESSING AND THE LORD WILL BE WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU GO ABOUT IT THE RIGHT WAY. THE LAST THING I WOULD LIKE TO DISCUSS IS AGING MARRIAGES. MARRIAGES ARE BOUND TO AGE AT SOME POINT OR ANOTHER, IT CAN ALSO HAPPEN IN ALL DIFFERENT SHAPES AND FORMS. THIS MAY BE A HARD ADJUSTMENT TO MAKE AND IT TAKES A LOT OF WORK FROM BOTH SPOUSES TO BE ABLE TO GET OVER THESE NEW ADJUSTMENTS. WITH THE LORD COUPLES WILL BE ABLE TO GET THROUGH THESE HARD TIMES AND REMAIN CLOSE AS WELL AS MAINTAINING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP. ALSO BY MAINTAINING A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD WE WILL BE ABLE TO BETTER OURSELVES INDIVIDUALLY AS WELL AS AS A COUPLE. WE CAN RECEIVE BLESSINGS OF HAPPINESS BY FOLLOWING THESE TEACHINGS AND COMING CLOSER TO OUR LORD. 

Parenting

BEING A PARENT IS A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY AND TAKES A LOT OF COURAGE. I AM A PARENT AND HAVE BEEN FOR THE PAST THREE YEARS. I HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD DAUGHTER NAMED BELLA. SHE IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME AND CONTINUES TO TEACH ME HOW TO LOVE AND LEARN NEW THINGS EACH AND EVERY DAY. I GET TO TALK TO MY DAUGHTER EVERY DAY ON THE PHONE AND IT IS THE HIGHLIGHT OF MY DAY AND REMINDS ME TO KEEP PUSHING FORWARD AND TO NEVER GIVE UP ON ANYTHING IN LIFE. SHE HAS ALSO TAUGHT ME THAT ALTHOUGH THINGS DO NOT ALWAYS GO AS PLANNED, HEAVENLY FATHER WILL MAKE SURE THE TURN OUT ALRIGHT. I NEVER KNEW MY BIRTH PARENTS GROWING UP. I WAS ADOPTED WHEN I WAS A BABY AND WAS RAISED BY A LOVING MOTHER FIGURE FOR THE YOUNGER YEARS OF MY LIFE. I KNEW SHE WASN’T MY REAL MOTHER THOUGH, AND THIS BOTHERED ME AND CONTINUED TO FORM MANY YEARS. MY ADOPTED MOTHER DIED WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER AND FOR A WHILE, I FELT LIKE I HAD NO ONE. LITTLE DID I KNOW, MY FATHER AND HEAVEN WAS LOOKING OVER ME AND HAD SOMETHING GREAT IN STORE FOR ME. I WAS SOON INTRODUCED TO THE GOSPEL AND THIS WAS A HUGE CHANGE TO MY LIFE. I NEVER FELT LIKE I HAD BELONGED ANYWHERE, BUT WHEN I ATTENDED CHURCH AND WAS SURROUNDED BY THE MEMBERS, I FELT WELCOME. I FELT LIKE THIS WAS SOMEWHERE I WAS MEANT TO BE. I ALSO FELT BEGAN TO KNOW THAT I HAVE A FATHER IN HEAVEN AND THAT ALTHOUGH I DID NOT REMEMBER HIM, HE REMEMBERED ME AND HE HAS A PLAN FOR ME PERSONALLY. THIS WAS THE BEST NEWS TO HEAR, TO KNOW THAT I DO HAVE A FATHER WHO LOVES ME SO MUCH THAT HE SENT HIS SON TO DIE FOR ME SO THAT I CAN LIVE WITH HIM AGAIN. THIS KNOWLEDGE HAS BEEN SUCH A BLESSING IN MY LIFE AND HAS PROVIDED ME WITH SO MUCH COMFORT. I FINALLY FEEL NEEDED SOMEWHERE AND I KNOW THAT SOMEONE LOVES ME INFINITELY. AFTER I JOINED THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER DAY SAINTS, I MET A FAMILY IN MY WARD WHO WAS SO KIND TO ME. THEY TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOMEONE SPECIAL AND LIKE I DESERVED TO BE LOVED. THIS WAS TRULY A BLESSING TO ME. WHEN I DECIDED TO GO BYUI, THEY OFFERED FOR ME TO SPEND THE NIGHT IN THEIR HOME AND GIVE ME A RIDE TO THE AIRPORT IN THE MORNING. I TOOK THEM UP ON THIS OFFER AND EVER SINCE WE HAVE HAD SUCH AN AMAZING BOND. I CALL THEM MY MOM AND DAD BECAUSE I FEEL THAT THEY TRULY FIT THE ROLE TO BE MY MOTHER AND FATHER. THEY HAVE TREATED ME LIKE FAMILY EVER SINCE I MET THEM AND NOW, THEY TRULY ARE MY FAMILY. I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THEM AND THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND SUPPORT THAT THEY HAVE SHOWN ME THROUGHOUT THE YEARS. THEY HAVE SHOWN ME WHAT IT TRULY MEANS TO BE A MOTHER AND FATHER AND HOW TO RAISE A CHILD IN A LOVING ENVIRONMENT. I HAVE A BROTHER AND SISTER AS WELL AND THEY TOO HAVE SHOWN ME WHAT LOVE IS REALLY LIKE AND HAS HELPED ME BECOME THE INDIVIDUAL THAT I AM TODAY. I AM SO THANKFUL FOR MY PARENTS AND THE EXAMPLES THAT THEY HAVE SET FOR ME AND I WANT TO FOLLOW AND HONOR THEIR EXAMPLES BY BEING THE BEST FATHER THAT I CAN BE TO MY DAUGHTER AS WELL AS ANY OTHER FUTURE CHILDREN I HAVE.

Fatherhood

 I AM A FATHER AND HAVE BEEN FOR A LITTLE OVER THREE YEARS NOW. BECOMING A FATHER WAS SCARY AT FIRST BUT HAS TURNED OUT TO BE ONE OF THE BEST THINGS THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME. MY DAUGHTER’S NAME IS BELLA, SHE IS THREE YEARS OLD AND SHE IS SO INTELLIGENT. I WAS HOME WITH HER FOR ABOUT THE FIRST YEAR OF HER LIFE AND IT WAS THE MOST DELIGHTFUL TIMES TO SEE HER GROW AND LEARN AND DEVELOP INTO THE SWEET GIRL SHE IS. I WENT TO SCHOOL WHEN SHE WAS ONE AND DECIDED THAT THIS WOULD BE THE BEST OPPORTUNITY FOR ME TO CREATE THE BEST LIFE FOR MY DAUGHTER POSSIBLE. I TALK TO MY DAUGHTER EVERY DAY AND TRY TO GO HOME TO VISIT AS OFTEN AS I CAN. ON THE OTHER HAND, I DID NOT REALLY HAVE A FATHER FIGURE GROWING UP MOST OF MY LIFE. I HAD AN ADOPTED MOTHER BUT NOT ADOPTED FATHER FROM BIRTH, AND THIS SHOWED ME THAT A MOTHER FIGURE CAN TRULY TAKE ON THE ROLE OF BOTH PARENTS. NOT HAVING A FATHER FIGURE MADE ME WANT TO BE A PART OF MY DAUGHTER’S LIFE EVEN MORE AND BE AS INVOLVED AS I POSSIBLY CAN BE. I FIGURE ALTHOUGH I DIDN’T HAVE SOMEONE THERE TO SHOW ME THINGS THAT ONLY A FATHER CAN AND TEACH ME CERTAIN THINGS AND LOVE ME, I CAN DO THIS FOR MY DAUGHTER AND SHOW HER WHAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS REALLY LIKE. I ALSO LEARNED WHILE PREPARING FOR THIS FROM PRESIDENT N. ELDON TANNER, THAT FATHERHOOD IS REALLY A PRIVILEGE AND A BLESSINGS IN OUR LIVES. WE SHOULD DO ALL THAT IS IN OUR POWER TO PRESIDE OVER OUR HOMES WITH LOVE. AS A FATHER WE ARE KNOWN AS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD, ALTHOUGH I BELIEVE THIS SHOULD BE SHARED BETWEEN A MAN AND WIFE AND THAT THEY SHOULD BOTH BE KNOWN AS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD. ANOTHER DUTY AS A FATHER THAT I HAVE AND THAT I DID NOT EXPERIENCE AS MUCH IN MY LIFE IS BEING ABLE TO TEACH MY CHILDREN TO LOVE THE GOSPEL AND FOLLOW THE COMMANDMENTS. I NOW HAVE AN A FATHER FIGURE IN MY LIFE, HIS NAME IS JOE. MY DAD HAS REALLY SHOWN ME WHAT IT MEANS TO LOVE HIS CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM TO BE RIGHTEOUS AND TO LOVE THE GOSPEL. HE HAS SET A GREAT EXAMPLE FOR ME AS WELL AS MY YOUNGER SIBLINGS AND I HOPE TO BE ABLE TO TAKE THE THINGS THAT HE HAS TAUHT ME AND TEACH THEM TO MY DAUGHTER AS WELL AS MY FUTURE CHILDREN. A FATHER’S JOB IS ALSO TO PREPARE HIS CHILDREN FOR THE WORLD AND ANY CHALLENGES THEY MAY FACE. HE IS TO PREPARE THEM SO THAT WHEN THEY ARE IN THESE SITUATIONS, THEY KNOW WHAT TO DO AND HOW TO GET THROUGH THESE HARD THINGS. I ALSO BELIEVE THAT AS A FATHER I HAVE A DUTY TO LOVE MY WIFE AND THE MOTHER OF MY CHILDREN AND SHOW THEM THAT THEY ARE IN A LOVING HOME AND ARE BEING REARED BY LOVING PARENTS WHO CAN GUIDE THEM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. THIS IS SUCH AN IMPORTANT TEACHING IN THE GOSPEL AND I AM THANKFUL THAT MY PARENTS HAVE TAUGHT ME THESE THINGS IN THE SHORT TIME I HAVE KNOWN THEM I AM ALSO THANKFUL THAT I HAVE HAD DIFFERENT FATHER FIGURES IN THE CHURCH THAT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO SHOW ME THESE THINGS AND TEACH ME THEM SO THAT I CAN IMPLEMENT THEM INTO MY LIFE WHEN I AM MARRIED AND HAVE A FAMILY OF MY OWN AS WELL AS WITH MY DAUGHTER, BELLA CURRENTLY. I AM SO THANKFUL FOR MY HEAVENLY FATHER AND HIS PLAN AND ALL THE BLESSINGS HE HAS PLACED IN MY LIFE.  

Communication

TODAY I WILL BE TALKING ABOUT COMMUNICATION AND MUTAUL PROBLEM SOLVING. THE WAY WE TALK AND CONVERSATE WITH FRIENDS, SPOUSES AND FAMILY IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO BE UNDERSTOOD. COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE BEING ABLE TO CONVERSATE EFFECTIVELY IS PERHAPS THE MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL LIKE SKILL IN MY OPINION. COMMUNICATION ENABLES US TO PASS INFORMATION AN THOUGHTS OR CONCLUSION AND THEORIES TO OTHER PEOPLE AROUND US. TOAYS WORLD ARE AREN'T REALLY SURE HOW COMMUNICATION WORKS IN MANY WAYS JUST NOT VERBALLY TALKING COMMUNICATION INVOLVES BODY LANGUAGE AN FACAIL EXPRESSIONS AS WELL. ALSO THE PITCH OF VOICE, TONE IT AND SOFT SKILLS.ANOTHER KEY TO BECOME A VAILD COMMUNICATOR IS TO BECOME A GREAT LISTENER. BEING AN ACTIVE LISTENER AND PAYING CLOSE ATTENTION . ALSO YOU ARE CLARIFYING THE AMBIGUTIES ARE ALSO KEY BECAUSE YOU SEE THE OTHER PERSON POINT OF VIEW OF THE TOPIC OF THE CONVERSATION OR FEELING. ALSO LISTING IS VERY FAIR BECAUSE WHEN BOTH TALK ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS TOWARDS SOMETHING YOU WANT THEM TO HEAR YOU SO WHY NOT HEAR THEM SO THINGS CAN BE UNDERSTOOD AND NOT ASSUMED A MISCONCEIVED. WITHOUT LISTENING WE DON’T HEAR ANYTHING SO THERE FOR WE ASSUME WHAT MIGHT BE SAID OR WAS. HOWEVER I JUST SHARED THE MOST TWO IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HELP ME BECOME A BETTER COMMUNICATOR, ALSO UNDERSTANDING WHY IT WAS IMPORTANT THEN AND STILL IMPORTANT NOW. WITHOUT SHARING YOUR INSIGHT AN FEELING NOBODY WILL NEVER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL OR EITHER UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR FEELING. AN HOW SMEONE IS GOING TO LISTEN IF YOU DON’T SAY WORDS SO HOW DOES THAT WORK IF YOU KNOW HOW LET ME KNOW IM LISTENING. I FOUND IT BETTER TO COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE NO MATTER WHAT BECAUE EVERYONE HAVE SOMETHING OFFER IN A POSITIVE WAY.I BECAME A BETTER LISTENER BY KNOWING WHAT IM RESPONDING TO OR HOW THE OTHER PERSON FEELING. NOW I WILL SWITCH GEARS A BIT TO TOUCH UP ON MUTAUL PROBLEM SOLVING WHICH CONNECT WITH COMMUNICATION. IF WE COMMUNICATE AN GET AN UNDERSTANDING WHY DID THE PROBLEM BECOME A PROBLEM INSTEAD OF A SITUATION. WE OFTEN SOMETIMES JUST SEEK OUR POINT OF VIEW WITH MANY SITUATION, SUCH AS WHY MEN SHOULDN’T HAVE FEMALES FRIENDS WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. WELL I MIGHT HAVE A DIFFERENT THOUGHT ABOUT THAT AND MY GIRLFRIENDS MIGHT HAD A DIFFERENT THOUGHT ABOUT THAT AS WELL. THAT’S DOSENT MEAN WE DON’T HAVE TO CREATE THAT INTO A FUSS OR A PROBLEM THETY WAY WE CAN SOLVE THAT IS JUST NECESSARILY CONVERSATE ABOUT THE PROS AN CONS AN COME TO A MUTUAL AGREEMENT AN NOT JUST ONE SIDED BECAUSE THAT’S CREATE CONFUSION. I BELIVE THAT’S WHY A LOT OF COUPLES FALL INTO THIS WHOLE OF POWER IN A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOU HAVE THAT ONE TIME THEY MAKE THE DECISION AN YOU GO ALONG WITH IT TO AVOID CONFLICT OR SO FORTH SO THATS WHEN THEY GET AHEAD OF THEMSELVES IM TALKING IN THIRD PERSON BECAUSE IT HAPPENED TO ME. MUTAUL PROBLEM SOLVING IS STRATEGY OF DOING WHATS BEST FOR YOU BOTH INSTEAD OF JUST ONE BECAUSE WE ALL HAVE FEELINGS ABOT THINGS THAT DOSENT GO OUR WAY AT SOME POINT BUT WHEN WE TALK IT OUT AN UNDERSTAND WHAT EACH OTHER IS SAYING OR FEEL ABOUT IT IS A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OVERALL. ASLO WE SHOULD KEEP IN MND THAT DON’T BE THE PROBLEM TO PROBLEM BECAUSE IF SO, IT WILL NEVER GET SOLVED. ALSO RESPECT OTHERS THOUGHTS IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP ETC. IT IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE WHEN WE COMMUNICATION ABOUT OUR THOUGHTS THAT YOU MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND WE LISTING MORE TO UNDERSTAND AN AFTER THAT YOU COME TO A MUTAUL AGREEMENT TO SOLVE A SO CALLED PROBLEM OR DISAGREEMENT. THANK YOU ENJOY VONNY 

Family Stress

WHAT A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE. IM EXCITED TO TALK ABOUT THIS TOPIC FAMILY STRESS. FAMILY STRESS CAN BE CREATED IN MAY DIFFERENT WAYS.SUCH AS NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO WHEN UPCOMING PROBLEMS SUCH AS MONEY, WORK, ISSUE WITH FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP WITH SIBLINGS.ONCE UPON A TIME I HAVED EXPERIENCE FAMILY STRESS FAMILY ASKING FOE MONEY. HOWEVER KNOWING IM A COLLEGE STUDENT THEY ASKED FOR LARGE AMOUNT OF MONEY AND IT PUT ME UNDER STRESS NOT KNOWING HOW TO MOVE FORWARD WITH IT. THAT’S AN EXPERIENCE THAT CAN MAKE YOU HAVE MIXED FEELINGS BECAUSE YOU WOULD WANT TO HELP THEM BUT DO YOU HAVE IT TO HELP. NOW YOUR IN THIS POSITION WHERE YOU HAVE TO EXPLAIN TO THEM HOW YOU CANT HELP. YOU LOVE OTHERS AN WANT TO DO ANYTHING TO PUTN THEM IN A GREAT POSITION NO MATTER WHAT. WELL I HAD TO KEEP IN MIND THE TYPE OF PEOPLE THEY WAS KNOWING THAT THEIR REACTION MIGHT NOT BE WHAT YOU EXPECT OR DO BUT EITHER WAY WE SHOULD GO WITH OUR MOVE. WHAT IM EXPLAINING IS THAT IT CREATES A TOUGH SITUATION AN IT CREATES STRESS TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER WITHIN A COUPLE FAMILY OR ETC. ALSO WHAT CAN CREATE FAMILY STRESS IS TOO MUCH TO DO IN A VERY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME. HAVE ANOTHER EXPERIENCE. AROUND LAST YEAR OF 2019 AROUND CHRISTMAS TIME MY MOM HAD PLANNED TO GO TO A BABY SHOWER TO ATTEND ON SATURDAY. I WAS SUPPOSE TO PICKED UP FROM.THE AIRPORT THAT SUNDAY AND MY SISTER HAD A DOCTORS APPOINTMENT THAT MONDAY AN MY DAD HAD TO WORK EVERYDAY AT 5 AM TO 12 AM AN THE AIRPORT WAS A WHILE AWAY. SO THIS AT LEAST A WEEK BEFORE AN NOT TO MENTION MY FLIGHT WAS CHANGED INTO MONDAY THE TIME OF MY SISTER DOCTORS APPOINTMENT. SO THERE IS THIS FAMILY STRESS NOW MOM HAD A SCHEDULE TO GO BY. ALSO MY SIBLINGS AREN'T IN SCHOOL THERE IS ON CHRISTMAS BREAK AN MY MOM STILL WORKS ONLINE AS TEACHER AN DOING A BUNCH OF GRADING SHE SCHEDULED TO DO. HOWEVER THEY WAS STRESSED OUT BECAUSE IT WAS A LATE NOTICE AN MY GRANDPARENTS WAS NOT OPEN TO WATCH THEM BECAUSE THEY WORKED THEMSELVES. ITS MORE TO THE STORY BUT THAT’S THE POINT OF FAMILY STRESS WHEN YOUR PLANS GETTING INTERFERED WITH OTHERS OR DELAYS ANN YOUR PLANS DON’T GO AS PLANNED BECAUSE OTHERS THINGS COME UP.IT CAN TAKE A TOLL ON OTHER MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY AN EVERYONE PANIC AN BE DISCOURAGED.MANY EXPERIENCES IN LIFE HAVE TAUGHT THAT FAMILY STRESS WILL MAKE LIFE MOPPY AN MISERABLE BECAUSE THEY NOT ABLE TO ENJOY THE THING THEY HAD PLANNED. BECAUSE DISTRACTED BY OTHER SITUATIONS IN LIFE OR UPCOMING AN SEEKING HOW TO MAKE A DECISION THAT WILL BENEFIT YOU AN YOUR FAMILY WHAT WILL BWE UNDERSTOOD WHY AN WILL NOT CREATE PROBLEMS WITHIN THE FAMILY. THERE IS ANOTHER THING WERE FAMILY STRESS IS CREATED WHEN OUR PEERS HAVE DEPRESSION AN WE DON’T KNOWING HOW TO COPE WITH THAT AN SEEK TO BE HAPPY DESPITE THE PROBLEM. THAT CAN BE UPSETTING BECAUSE WHAT MAKE THEM HAPPY MIGHT NOT MAKE US HAPPY AT THE TIME. MAKING BAD DECISIONS CAN CREATE FAMILY STRESS HOW THEY LOOKED AT AN HOW THEY CAN OVERCOME THAT DECISION AN HOW IT HAS EFFECTED THEM AS WHOLE AN THE WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF THEM AN HOW WILL THEY BE ABLEW TO LIVE WITHOUT BEING TOUCHED OR  LOOKED AT BECAUSE OF THAT MISTAKE OR DECISION. FAMILY STRESS CAN BE UNEXPECTED TIMES AN MY ADVICE TO THE ONES THAT SEE THIS IS THAT JUST DO THE BEST YOU CAN NEVER GIVE UP TOUGH TIKMES DON’T LAST LONG.

Respecting One Another

THIS WEEK DISCUSSION TOPICS ARE SEXAUL INTIMACY AN FAMILY LIFE.

I WOULD LIKE TO START OFF BY SAYING THAT IT IS DIFFICULT TO ADAPT TO

MANY SITUATION.SUCH AS MARRIAGE AN NOT HAVING INTERCOURSE EVERYDAY

OR AS OFTEN AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO. HOWEVER THAT’S WHAT WE HAVE

EXPERIENCED NOT OUR SPOUSE OR OUR GIRLFRIEND OR SOON TO BE SPOUSE

THEREFORE I BELIEVE WE SHOULD RECOMMEND AN BE FAIR TO RESPECT THAT

WE ALL EXPERIENCE DIFFERENT UPBRINGING. SUCH AS ME BEING ACTIVE

SEXUALLY SINCE 12 YEARS OF AGE I SHOULDN’T GO INTO MY RELATIONSHIP

EXPECTING MY SIGNIFICANT OHERS TO BE ACTIVE OR WANTING TO BE

ACTIVE JUST BECAUSE OF ME. EVERYTHING IN LIFE WE SHOULD ADAPT TO AN

PUT THOUGHT TOO. TODAYS SOCIETY THE WORLD SEEKS TO PUT THAT

PRESSURE ON PEOPLE REGARDING SEXUALLY ACTIVE IN MARRIAGE MAKIG THAT

THE PINPOINT TO MAKE ONE ANOTHER HAPPY A HAVE A PEACEFULLY

MARRIAGE. ALSO READING BOOKS OR PODCAST OR SO FORTH THAT’S JUST

OTHERS EXPERIENCES AN THOUGHTS TO HELP OTHERS BUT THE WORDS ARE

REALLY OPTIONAL NOPE ITS VERY DEMANDING SO THEREFORE PEPLE TAKE THE

RISK TO FOLLOW THAT AN WHEN THEY FAIL THAT THEY SEEMS TO GET

DISCOURAGE OR SAY THAT THE ADVICE OR BOOK WAS GARBAGE. WELL I

SHOULD SAY WHAT WORKS FOR SOME DOSENT WORK FOR ALL.NOW I WILL

SWITCH IT UP NOW AS A MEMBER IT MAY SEEM VERY DIFFICULT TO LISTEN TO

OTHERS OUTSIDE YOUR FAITH BECAUSE THEY DON’T FOLLOW THE SAME

PEOPLE SUCH AS ROLE MODELS ALSO PEOPLE THAT ARE EXAMPLES TO THEM.

ALSO WE FOLLOW TE SCRIPTURES AN CONFERENCE TALKS ABOUT MANY

DIFFERENT TOPICS REGARDING MARRIAGE AN SO FORTH. WE SEEK TO DIFFER

FROM THE WORDLY LIFE AN WHAT IT HAS TO OFFER. ALSO IT CAN BE THE FACT

THAT YOU HAVEN'T LET O SOME OFF THOSE HABITS A EXPERIENCES WHICH

MAY CARRY OVER TO YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP SO ITS NOT OURR

FAULT THAT WE EXPERIENCED THAT NEITHER SHOULD WE ALLOW ITBTO

OVERTAKE US WE SHOULD ALWAYS TRY TO DO OUR BEST TO RESPECT OUR

SPOUSE LOVE AN DIFFICULTIES REGARDING SEX AN UNDERSTAND HOW

FEMALES ACTUALLY ARE AN HOW THEY WANT TO HAVE COMFORT BEFORE

PHYSICAL TOUCHING. ANOTHER THING I WOULD LIKETO SHARE IS THAT

WOMAN NEED LOVE AN AFFECTION BEFORE DOING WHAT SOME OTHERS

FEMALE PROMOTES INTO THEIR OWN LIFES OR BUILT UP FEELINGS OR HABITS.

A LOT OF MEN SENSE TO USE THEIR PAST EXPERIENCES TO DEFINE WOMAN

WHEN THAT’S NOT THE CASE BECAUSE PEOPLE HAVE SO MUCH TO OFER IN

DIFFERENT WAYS 100 PEOPLE DO NOT SPEAK FOR 2 MILON OTHERS AROUND

THE WORLD.HOWEVER NOW I'LL WILL CONVERSATE ABOUT HOW WE SHOULD

TAKE OUR FAMILY ADVICE. I BELIEVE THAT FAMILY ADVUCE WE CAN

CONSIDER BUT DON’T ALLOW IT TO OVERTAKE US BECAUSE IT CAN. SUCH AS

SOMEONE ELSE OPTIONAL CAN OVERTAKE YOU INSTEAD OF JUST GIVING A

SUGGESTION WHICH IS A BETTER OFFER BCAUSE TELLING SOMONE EHAT THEY

HAVE TO DO WIL LEAVING THEM FEELING LIKE THEYB ARE HELD

ACCOUNTABLE SOMEWHAT AS AN EXPECTATION. WHEN HELD UP TO AN

EXPECTATION IT WILL KILL YOU OR MAKE YOU OVERWHELMED WHEN YOU

MAKE A MISTAKE OR DON’T LIVE UP TO THE STANDARD. I WOULD IKE TO SHARE

MY EXPERIENCE OF BEING SEXUALLY ACTIVE AT A YOUNG AGE HAS TAUGHT

ME THAT NOT BEING A MEMBER WHILE THOSE TIMES I DID THINGS DOSENT ME

AN OTHERS MY AGE ARE DOING THE SAME AN I SHOULDN'T LOOK UPON THEM

AS LAME OR I SHOULD MAKE THEM ADAPT TO WHAT I HAVE EXPERIENCED WE

SHOULD BE MUTAUL AS WE MAKE DECISION WITH OUR WIFE AN RESPECT

OTHERS FRO THEIR FEELINGS AN SO FORTH. THANK YOU.     

Marriage Transitions

MARRIAGE COMES WITH MANY DIFFERENT STAGES OF TRANSITION. EACH OF THE SPOUSES IS REQUIRED TO TAKE ON DIFFERENT ROLES AS THEIR LIVES CHANGE TOGETHER AND AS THESE COUPLES GO THROUGH THESE STAGES OF TRANSITION THEY WILL FIGURE OUT WHAT WORKS BEST FOR THEM AS A COUPLE. NOT ALL MARRIAGES HAVE THE SAME DYNAMICS AND SOMETIMES EACH MARRIAGE WILL HAVE DIFFERENT STAGES OF TRANSITION. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT IN THE FIRST STAGES OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE TO COMMUNICATE ONE ANOTHER'S FEELINGS TO EACH OTHER AS WELL AS TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION WHAT THEIR SPOUSE MAY BE GOING THROUGH OR BE HAVING DIFFICULTY WITH. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO MAINTAIN THIS COMMUNICATION AND OPENNESS THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO ENSURE THERE ARE NO WALLS BUILT IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND TO BE SURE THAT EACH PARTNER FEELS LOVED AND HEARD. WHEN IT IS JUST YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE BEFORE YOU HAVE CHILDREN, IT IS A LOT EASIER TO SETTLE DISAGREEMENTS AS WELL AS MAKE TIME FOR ONE ANOTHER AND KEEP OPEN COMMUNICATION BETWEEN ONE ANOTHER. ONCE CHILDREN ARE PUT INTO THE PICTURE, THERE ARE DEFINITELY A LOT MORE FACTORS THAT NEED TO BE CONSIDERED AND THIS CAN BE KNOWN TO CAUSE SOME TENSION IN RELATIONSHIPS. IN ORDER TO GET RID OF SOME OF THIS STREE AND TENSION COUPLES CAN CONSIDER SEEKING COUNSELING OR ADVICE FROM A TRUSTED FRIEND. MY ADVICE WOULD ALSO BE TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND REMEMBER THAT A CHILD IS A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE BOTH OF YOU AND THAT HAVING A CHILD WILL BE A HUGE ADJUSTMENT AND MAY TAKE SOME TIME TO GET USED TO. I CAN SAY THIS FROM EXPERIENCE, WHEN I HAD MY DAUGHTER THERE WERE A LOT MORE FACTORS TO PLACE INTO CONSIDERATION WITH MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER MOTHER. WE FIGURED THINGS OUT AS TIME WENT ON, BUT I WISH I HAD THIS ADVICE BEFORE I HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS EXPERIENCE FOR MYSELF. AS CHILDREN START TO GROW OLDER THIS STARTS A NEW STAGE OF TRANSITION IN A MARRIAGE AND CAN EVEN START TO CHALLENGE THE RELATIONSHIP MORE THAN WHEN THE CHILD WAS EVEN SMALLER. THIS IS WHY COUPLES WILL HAVE TO ADAPT TO THIS NEW STAGE OF TRANSITION IN THEIR LIFE AND THEY CAN DO THIS BY WILLING TO BE OPEN TO CHANGE AND ADAPTING TO THE NEW THINGS THEIR CHILDREN MAY BE INTERESTED IN. IF THEY DO THIS THEY WILL HAVE AN EASIER TIME GETTING THROUGH THIS STAGE OF TRANSITION AND WILL NOT HAVE QUITE AS MANY DISAGREEMENTS. BEING ABLE TO OVER COME HARD THINGS AND STICK TOGETHER THROUGH THESE CHALLENGES IS ONE OF THE HARDEST PARTS OF A MARRIAGE AND IT IS WHATE DETERMINES WHETHER THE COUPLE IS STRONG ENOUGH TO GET THROUGH THESE TRIALS AND MAINTAIN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. THE LAST STAGE OF TRANSITION IN A MARRIAGE IS WHEN YOUR CHILDREN GROW UP AND MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE, YOU ARE NOW EMPTY NESTORS. THIS STAGE SEEMS TO BE THE HARDEST, YET I WOULD NOT KNOW SINCE I HAVE YET TO EXPERIENCE IT MYSELF. I WOULD SAY THAT DURING THIS STAGE OF TRANSITION IT IS BEST FOR THE COUPLE TO TRY AND FIND NEW THINGS OF INTEREST FOR THEM TO PARTICIPATE IN AND MAKE SURE THEY ARE PAYING ATTENTION TO THEIR MENTAL HEALTH AS WELL AS THEIR SPOUSES. I BELIEVE IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT FOR COUPLES TO DO ACTIVITIES TOGETHER TO HELP THEM BOND AND BECOME CLOSER TO ONE ANOTHER AND CONTINUE TO GROW THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND MAINTAIN THE BOND BETWEEN ONE ANOTHER. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO BE CONSIDERATE OF YOUR SPOUSE AND ANY HEALTH ISSUES THEY MAY BE GOING THROUGH AND BE SUPPORTIVE OF THEM DURING THESE TIMES. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO STAY STRONG FOR ONE ANOTHER AND GIVE EACH OTHER THE LOVE YOU DESERVE AND NEVER LET THEM GO.