Marriage Transitions

MARRIAGE COMES WITH MANY DIFFERENT STAGES OF TRANSITION. EACH OF THE SPOUSES IS REQUIRED TO TAKE ON DIFFERENT ROLES AS THEIR LIVES CHANGE TOGETHER AND AS THESE COUPLES GO THROUGH THESE STAGES OF TRANSITION THEY WILL FIGURE OUT WHAT WORKS BEST FOR THEM AS A COUPLE. NOT ALL MARRIAGES HAVE THE SAME DYNAMICS AND SOMETIMES EACH MARRIAGE WILL HAVE DIFFERENT STAGES OF TRANSITION. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT IN THE FIRST STAGES OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE TO COMMUNICATE ONE ANOTHER'S FEELINGS TO EACH OTHER AS WELL AS TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION WHAT THEIR SPOUSE MAY BE GOING THROUGH OR BE HAVING DIFFICULTY WITH. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO MAINTAIN THIS COMMUNICATION AND OPENNESS THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO ENSURE THERE ARE NO WALLS BUILT IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND TO BE SURE THAT EACH PARTNER FEELS LOVED AND HEARD. WHEN IT IS JUST YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE BEFORE YOU HAVE CHILDREN, IT IS A LOT EASIER TO SETTLE DISAGREEMENTS AS WELL AS MAKE TIME FOR ONE ANOTHER AND KEEP OPEN COMMUNICATION BETWEEN ONE ANOTHER. ONCE CHILDREN ARE PUT INTO THE PICTURE, THERE ARE DEFINITELY A LOT MORE FACTORS THAT NEED TO BE CONSIDERED AND THIS CAN BE KNOWN TO CAUSE SOME TENSION IN RELATIONSHIPS. IN ORDER TO GET RID OF SOME OF THIS STREE AND TENSION COUPLES CAN CONSIDER SEEKING COUNSELING OR ADVICE FROM A TRUSTED FRIEND. MY ADVICE WOULD ALSO BE TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND REMEMBER THAT A CHILD IS A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE BOTH OF YOU AND THAT HAVING A CHILD WILL BE A HUGE ADJUSTMENT AND MAY TAKE SOME TIME TO GET USED TO. I CAN SAY THIS FROM EXPERIENCE, WHEN I HAD MY DAUGHTER THERE WERE A LOT MORE FACTORS TO PLACE INTO CONSIDERATION WITH MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER MOTHER. WE FIGURED THINGS OUT AS TIME WENT ON, BUT I WISH I HAD THIS ADVICE BEFORE I HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS EXPERIENCE FOR MYSELF. AS CHILDREN START TO GROW OLDER THIS STARTS A NEW STAGE OF TRANSITION IN A MARRIAGE AND CAN EVEN START TO CHALLENGE THE RELATIONSHIP MORE THAN WHEN THE CHILD WAS EVEN SMALLER. THIS IS WHY COUPLES WILL HAVE TO ADAPT TO THIS NEW STAGE OF TRANSITION IN THEIR LIFE AND THEY CAN DO THIS BY WILLING TO BE OPEN TO CHANGE AND ADAPTING TO THE NEW THINGS THEIR CHILDREN MAY BE INTERESTED IN. IF THEY DO THIS THEY WILL HAVE AN EASIER TIME GETTING THROUGH THIS STAGE OF TRANSITION AND WILL NOT HAVE QUITE AS MANY DISAGREEMENTS. BEING ABLE TO OVER COME HARD THINGS AND STICK TOGETHER THROUGH THESE CHALLENGES IS ONE OF THE HARDEST PARTS OF A MARRIAGE AND IT IS WHATE DETERMINES WHETHER THE COUPLE IS STRONG ENOUGH TO GET THROUGH THESE TRIALS AND MAINTAIN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. THE LAST STAGE OF TRANSITION IN A MARRIAGE IS WHEN YOUR CHILDREN GROW UP AND MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE, YOU ARE NOW EMPTY NESTORS. THIS STAGE SEEMS TO BE THE HARDEST, YET I WOULD NOT KNOW SINCE I HAVE YET TO EXPERIENCE IT MYSELF. I WOULD SAY THAT DURING THIS STAGE OF TRANSITION IT IS BEST FOR THE COUPLE TO TRY AND FIND NEW THINGS OF INTEREST FOR THEM TO PARTICIPATE IN AND MAKE SURE THEY ARE PAYING ATTENTION TO THEIR MENTAL HEALTH AS WELL AS THEIR SPOUSES. I BELIEVE IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT FOR COUPLES TO DO ACTIVITIES TOGETHER TO HELP THEM BOND AND BECOME CLOSER TO ONE ANOTHER AND CONTINUE TO GROW THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND MAINTAIN THE BOND BETWEEN ONE ANOTHER. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO BE CONSIDERATE OF YOUR SPOUSE AND ANY HEALTH ISSUES THEY MAY BE GOING THROUGH AND BE SUPPORTIVE OF THEM DURING THESE TIMES. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO STAY STRONG FOR ONE ANOTHER AND GIVE EACH OTHER THE LOVE YOU DESERVE AND NEVER LET THEM GO.